Trustin’ Lads may be my downfall

One of the first pics I took with my now stolen DSLR

One of the first pics I took with my now stolen DSLR


I like to believe in the notion that people are mostly good. That if in need, our fellow-man is there to help out. That not everyone is out to get some in life… I’m not sure I can honestly say this is still my thoughts.

Throughout my 36 years, I’ve learned one thing that does ring true. You can only ever count on one person, YOURSELF! Now I may seem bitter, and come off a bit angry. But really I’m not that angry. Yes I’m mad that I allowed myself to be taken advantage of, that I opened up opportunity, and people have seized it.Joes valley 062

The truth is, my one major fault is Trustin’ Lads… Because I’ve opened my heart up to so many, the odds will eventually kick in. It will undoubtably backfire on me one way or another. I’ve been let down, dropped by the ones I thought loved me the most, in a time when I needed them the most. I’ve pushed aside, while watching others move forward in their career goals, and I’m left doing the leg work. And though I know in these situations, I did have some control over the outcome. And being “too nice” has left me regretting. I’ve always live under the motto that I’d rather be a good person with integrity, then step on others on my way to the top.

Since I purchased my home, I’ve invited multiple people into it. Free place to stay… People I barely knew anything about, but just had a good vibe with them. And it’s always worked out alright. I’ve made friends, roommates, even adventure buddies. Hopefully for life. But recently, I answered an ad on Craigslist. Someone that needed a place to live, needed a bed, and needed it soon and cheap. I thought, ‘Hey, it will help me out financially, and I’m helping someone else.’ Win-Win! Maybe I gain another adventure partner out of this at very least.? Boy was I wrong.Joes valley 029

After the rent was late and I had to get after her for it, the vibe was not so good. She promptly paid me, and I just gave her the benefit of the doubt. She said she came from out-of-state, had an agency moving her belonging here for her. Seemed plausible. But then I began noticing little things. She called and complained EVERYTIME she ordered dinner. Got a free meal credited. I started thinking ‘your just taking advantage of these companies’. She was still eating the meals they sent out. But getting a second one on the house. She was a cheat, a scam artist. And still, I didn’t listen to my heart. I had half a mind to kick her out. I knew I wasn’t going to keep her around at the end of the month. Mostly because I didn’t trust her, but I had a sneaking feeling something was amiss.Joes valley 013

Then 1 week before her month was up, my other roommate Gina told me she was missing her Percocet she had just gotten from her surgery. I was furious, I knew exactly who took it. But Gina pleaded with me not to confront her. Gina was scared to be alone with her. Scared she would try to retaliate when I was not around. And Gina being helpless, I understood. So we came up with a white lie to get her to move out. Told her my sister bedded a place to go, that she had been kicked out by her BF. But not to seem to obvious, I still didn’t kick her out ASAP. I still ignored the warning in my heart. And after contacting the police when I found Gina’s pills in her belongings. The police said there was nothing they could do. No proof they said… He said she said they told us… So I made the decision to play out the lie. And boy did it cost me big time.

After she left, I noticed $120 missing from my wallet. Gina said she was missing an external hard drive. Then 2 separate cameras were gone. Yes, including my brand new Canon DSLR that I just purchased. It was being stored in my vehicle, she must’ve removed it when I was sleeping, or in the shower.? I’ve also noticed my vehicles spare keys are gone? Did I misplace them? I doubt it… And I’m sure in time, I will notice more things here and there.

It seems I was EXTREMELY naïve? Trustin’ Lads has always been my downfall. No, it doesn’t make me a bad person, but an easy target? Yes! Vulnerable? Yes! Stupid? YES!Joes valley 020

I’d like to sit here and say that it won’t affect my outlook on life… But that would be a lie. I was once the guy that pulled over and gave a young lady a ride 10 miles to a phone. Just because she had nowhere else to go. I had believed in good karma, but the reality is if you leave yourself open someone, somewhere will see opportunity and they will seize it. I’ve since changed the locks in my house, reprogram the garage door opener and change the code. Cut wood blocks to keep all the windows closed. And yes, I pulled my 9 mm out of the lock box and loaded the clip it now sleeps right next to me.Joes valley 065
I’m even considering a security system, getting a dog. Or maybe just selling my house altogether? I feel violated, someone came into my home invited and I let them take advantage of me and my friend. I don’t even feel like I can leave my house alone without wondering if someone trying to get into it? I shouldn’t have to feel unsecure in my own home, my roommate should not have to feel unsafe staying in my home.

We all affect the outcome of the world, whether it be for good or bad, we all play apart. I choose to play the good part.Joes valley 039


15 comments on “Trustin’ Lads may be my downfall

  1. The pictures, for what it’s worth, are excellent for your first go, Josh.

    We’ll get things figured out. Things circle back to good people. I full on believe that. And because I DO believe in the afterlife and justice, she will get what is coming to her. Besides, she can’t be a happy person — she has to live on the run constantly; always drugged up to hide from pain of what she is doing to others, never with a real life, never with a shoulder to lean on, completely alone, living in her lie. She will die with no memories, no family, no friends. What a life.

    What a beautiful life we live in comparison to those like her. Stay open and positive.

      • First, let me indulge the annoying horrible fixer part of my personality: Since you filed a police report can you make a claim for the camera on your homeowners insurance?

        Second, I don’t believe in an afterlife. And I don’t really believe in karma or the like. The sad fact is that she’ll probably continue to manipulate and cheat innocent, kind people. BUT the amazing wonderful fact is that you’re one of the most big-hearted people I know. You open your home to love and you open your heart to the people who care about and in whatever ways we can we will rally around you. You will recover and move on stronger than ever and more trusting of your intuition.

      • Beth, I can ,ake a ho,e owners insurance claim, and will. but after deductible, it will only probably pay for HD & GoPro. The deductible is more than the DSLR, so I think I’m SOL on that. 😦

        And I do agree with the whole “this is how we live our lives thing.” And I’m sure in time, I’ll feel the same way. Thansk for the kind words

  2. I totally appreciate how you feel. In Ecuador I was stabbed with a screwdriver and had my head bashed against a wall right outside my front door when I stepped between a thief and my wife. At least they were complete strangers to me. The scars stay there after the wounds heal.

    • Paul, its sad because I have had so many good experiences inviting people into my home. It’s kind of always been my thing. Thank you for being such a polite and wonderful house guest. You will always be welcome in my home

  3. I haven’t met you (yet). But it sounds like you’re one of the rare people that a lot of the general population wish to be, kindhearted and unabashedly helpful. I sincerely hope this experience doesn’t change that. Add a +1 to what MissouriHowell said, for me.

    Though a bit different, I had experienced theft. Car got broken in, and they took stuff, not even talking about just the car radio thing, personal stuff that haunted me that they can come to my house, with keys and all. I can relate to the guarded-bordering-paranoia that comes after the experience, the “I feel so exposed” sadness, and the self blame that comes with it. Wondering of things I should and should not have done. For weeks, I hated what it did to me. But they were right, it’ll get better. Hang in there, Joshua!

  4. Pingback: BUSTED! Recap of how I caught the thief | experience.via.imagination

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